Attention can make us feel acknowledged, appreciated, and valued. As a result, a lot of people seek attention.
In general, if one wants attention, he/she will do something to try to get others to notice them. This can include: posting a lot of pictures, messaging a lot, doing something out of the ordinary, being very loud, making controversial statements, and so on.
Some try extremely hard to get the attention of others. This may be because they feel that it validates their existence. For example, for devoted fans, it means the world to them if their celebrity crushes notice them. Thus, it is very common for extreme fans to continuously bombard their celebrities with tweets and comments. To them, if the celebrity ever responds or retweets to even one message, they feel like it’s all worth it.
However, attention is not only limited towards celebrities. Everyday, people want our attention when they post up things on social media. They can be our friends and family, or random strangers we do not know. People may deny they want attention, but if they are posting things publicly, they want people to see/notice it. Or else, why would you share it with everyone?
However, not everyone wants attention. Some people prefer being the silent observer; and do not want to be noticed. Perhaps they do not want to deal with people, or maybe, they just prefer keeping their lives in private.
There is nothing wrong with wanting attention though. I will firstly admit, I want your attention! I really want people to notice and read my blog. It’s very difficult though, nowadays. Our attention spans are so short and most people do not like to read. Even Twitter limits each tweet to 140 characters!
Today, with the help of social media, it has never been easier to garner a huge number of viewers. Therefore, companies will use all the social media they can to sell you their products. This can be dangerous because most of the time, the purpose of the advertisements/instagram posts/emails/whatever you see electronically is to make the viewer feel that by purchasing the products, he/she will feel amazing. In fact, the product will make you happier, better, and/or more desirable.
Now, I’m not saying advertisements are bad. It depends on how you look at it. They are necessary to some degree. If nothing were advertised, how would we know about it? For businesses, it would be extremely stupid of them if they did not use social media to their advantage. And who knows? Perhaps the products can make you happier, better, and/or more desirable!? But just be careful. Ultimately, they all want your attention and they all want you to buy.
Buying a whole bunch of stuff isn’t going to make you feel any better if you struggle with self worth.
Learn to love and appreciate yourself first; because if you are going to determine your value based on what you can buy, you will feel worthless if you have no money.