How most Asian parents think

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Instead of blogging about motivational things this week, I want to share something that I find quite interesting and true for most traditional Asian families.

Note: This post is based on my experiences, as well as many others. It is not to say all Asian parents are like this.

Punishment
Asian parents believe it is totally acceptable to beat their children. They believe that punishment will deter an undesirable behaviour from happening again. Perhaps the child will be too afraid to get hit, so he/she will be too frightened to misbehave.

Once, my friends and I were randomly discussing over getting beaten as a child, and we went through a circle telling each other what we were hit with. Surprisingly, all of our parents used different things! The list consisted of: hand, a stick, a feather duster, a broom, newspaper, a ruler, a coat hanger, a rope, a hockey stick, and even a baseball bat. When we heard “baseball bat”, all of us were slightly amused and surprised at the same time. We all went, “Woaahhhh.” After all, baseball bats are so heavy/hard! That’s brutal!! But we had a great laugh. We all turned out fine, I think.

The Western society might find this shocking and unacceptable, but it is very common if you grew up with traditional Asian parents.

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Building Confidence

Confidence

Confidence is an amazing feeling. It makes you feel like you can do anything.

It is power.

It is belief.

It is also posture and energy.

When someone is confident, you can sense it right away. It’s as if there is an invisible shield surrounding him/her. Confident people are usually very good presenters and quite popular. No wonder then, most people want to be confident. But the question is, how?

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Random relationship thoughts

Relationship

A couple days ago, my friend said this to me, “A woman’s loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man’s loyalty is tested when he has everything.” Although it’s simply two sentences, I feel like it holds so much truth.

Would a woman really stay with a man who has nothing? And if a man has everything, would he really be satisfied staying with one woman?

If you were to get onto a bus, and there were only one seat. Assuming you wanted to sit, you would be very grateful to see a seat, and you would happily sit on it. On the other hand, if you were on an empty bus, you would probably not sit on the very first seat you see. Instead, you would try to find a seat that has the best view (along with it being the cleanest and most spacious). I think it’s fair to say that when we have options, we tend to be pickier.

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Questionnaire for yourself

Questions

For this post to be effective, please take out a piece of paper and a pen to complete the following exercise.

1. Make a list of 10 things you love to do. Then make a list of 10 things you do each day. Compare the list. 

Are you doing what you love? If not, why not?

If there is something you love doing, make time for it. Don’t give yourself excuses or postpone it for another time. For example, if you love travelling, set aside a budget and time! Don’t wait until you have more money. Don’t wait until you have more time. Sometimes, days will turn into weeks, weeks into years, and eventually you won’t have any time left.

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