Why people test each other

Relationship test

This week’s relationship topic was suggested by my friend, Dan. I am focusing on relationships here, but in general, people test each other all the time.

Here are some of the reasons why I think people test each other in relationships:

1. They want to know how much you care. For instance, a person might stop texting for a couple of days to see if the other person would initiate. A person might ask a ridiculous question and see how you react/respond. Ex. Would you save me or _______ if we both fell in the river? (This is a stupid question, but it’s a common one)

2. They want to know their competition. By asking questions such as: “Do you think she/he is attractive?” The person will be able to tell what type of girls/guys you are into (unless you lie). Some people may ask and get jealous by the answers (because they want to be your only object of desire). Some may ask simply due to curiosity; and some may ask so they know how to avoid/get rid of their competition.

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Recap

2015 New Year celebration

As 2015 draws to a close, I want to take the time to reflect on what I have gone through this year.

This year, I’m done quite a few things I never thought I would do.

  1. I started composing my own melody/songs (I never thought it was possible until I tried).
  2. I started blogging regularly (every Monday but I’ve been late lately *It’s 11:56PM right now*).
  3. I started creating raps (I never thought it was possible until I tried). You can read my first rap here
  4. I started translating a Chinese novel into English (I never thought I would translate a novel, especially when I’ve never actually read a book in Simplified Chinese before). It is definitely challenging, but it is not impossible. You can read my translation here
  5. I went speed dating (I never thought I would actually try something like that). It was an interesting experience. You can read about it here
  6. I went to hand out socks for the homeless. You can read about my experience here

I did a lot of things I never thought I would do. I guess I just wanted to experience newer things. I feel like most of the time, we try to convince ourselves of why we don’t want to do something because we’re afraid of failure.

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Reflection

Reflection

Yesterday, I turned 27. I feel young and old at the same time. Young- because there are still many years ahead of me (hopefully). Old- because some of my friends are already starting families of their own.

I start reflecting about my life. What have I done? What have I accomplished? What have I overcome?

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Questionnaire for yourself

Questions

For this post to be effective, please take out a piece of paper and a pen to complete the following exercise.

1. Make a list of 10 things you love to do. Then make a list of 10 things you do each day. Compare the list. 

Are you doing what you love? If not, why not?

If there is something you love doing, make time for it. Don’t give yourself excuses or postpone it for another time. For example, if you love travelling, set aside a budget and time! Don’t wait until you have more money. Don’t wait until you have more time. Sometimes, days will turn into weeks, weeks into years, and eventually you won’t have any time left.

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