Have you ever messaged a woman and wondered why she doesn’t message you back?
In the past, I had always thought it was common courtesy to respond to anyone who had messaged me. However, after using my first dating app (Unveil), I’ve came to an understanding as to why some women do not return messages.
(Note: The app uses your voice instead of text, but it’s the same concepts)
After using the application for a few months, I have identified many reasons why women may not respond. Here are ten reasons:
1. She wasn’t serious all along
Some people sign up for dating apps due to boredom or curiosity. She may not have any intentions of meeting anyone. Sometimes, she just wants to know how many people she could match with.
Initially, I downloaded unveil so I could write a review on it. Now, I use it for research purposes.
2. You’re too serious
If you sound too serious early on, you can scare her away. For example, once a guy messaged me and told me his entire life story the first time we exchanged messages. I was wondering, “Why is he telling me so much personal information? I barely even know him!”
Don’t invest so much emotion into someone unless she has shown a bit of interest.
3. You seem desperate
If you make it seem like she’s your only option, she will be turned off. Don’t always be the first one to message her. Allow her to respond or initiate. If you’re constantly trying to get her attention, she will think you’re super needy and will most likely find you less attractive. Continue reading “10 reasons why she doesn’t text back”
To my dear readers,
If you can’t tell by now, the translator of “The Eunuch is Pregnant” is from theeunuch dot com. All the other sites have stolen my translations. Since they keep stealing my stuff, they might as well steal my blog posts too. I started off as a blogger anyway. Here’s a post I wrote a year ago. (Btw, I linked a video too, I wonder if the aggregators will upload that too?)
I am featured in a podcast with some of my friends from Faulty Logix! In the episode, I shared about why I started blogging, some of my most popular posts, some personal stories (including receiving an inappropriate pic once!) The guys and I also had a discussion about whether guys and girls can be purely friends. Feel free to listen! If you like what you hear, don’t forget to subscribe and follow them!
On another note, I want to tell you guys how to get close to someone. The key, is to ask the right questions. Oftentimes, the questions we ask or get asked are too surface level. Ex. “Hey, what’s new?” “How’s work?” These type of questions will usually only give you short and simple responses.
In order to really get to know someone, you have to dig deeper. Here are some deeper questions you could ask:
1. Who is your hero? What qualities make them your choice?
2. If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would buy? Why?
3. What values are important to you?
4. What scares you?
5. What makes you feel alive?
These questions will definitely give you a much better idea of what the person is like because answering these questions require a lot more thought. The person actually has to think and be a bit vulnerable. Continue reading “Asking the right questions”
To my dear readers,
Last week, my ex neighbour Jack picked me up and we recorded an interesting podcast with his friend and co-host Gavin in his “studio” (his room). Haha.
I haven’t seen Jack since 2002. He was 9 at the time.
It’s crazy how time flew by and we recently reconnected through facebook because he was trying to promote his podcast. Ahahahahaha.
Anyhow, the podcast is super interesting so you should listen.
Here’s briefly what we talked about: Continue reading “Guess who is featured in an interesting podcast!? (me)”
Last Monday, I didn’t write my normal Monday post. I felt bad and I wanted to write, but I didn’t feel like venting or sharing some of my personal issues.
However, I don’t want to skip my post again, so I’m going to share a bit.
If you have read my last original post My Adventures on Discord , you would know that I have found a very fun and interactive online community.
Due to my illness, I am often at home. Therefore, nowadays, I usually go on discord daily.
I really enjoy karaoke-ing and chatting with different translators and editors from all over the world. Sometimes, on voice chat, people would play guitar or piano, and a bunch of us would mute ourselves and listen. It’s like attending a concert, except you can only listen.
A few days ago, Options was playing the piano. Deceptioning made a comment.
Deceptioning: Your girlfriend will be a lucky woman (due to the fast fingers? Haha)
A bunch of people: Options is a girl!
Deceptioning: Oh…lucky guy then?
Options: Well, I do have my options (get it? Her name is Options, so she has her options! AHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAHA *insert the laughing crying face emoticon*)
*By the way, this was through text and we didn’t actually hear Option speak, so most of us had no idea she was a female.
But on a serious note, discord also made me learn a few things about myself and people.
If someone really wants to talk to you, he/she will make the effort to talk to you even if there are so many barriers (ex. they’re busy, different time zones, different work schedules, etc).
This week I’m doing something totally different from my usual blogs. I have a video instead!!! Originally, I was going to record all the answers by hand and write a post, but my friends suggested recording a video since it was easier and potentially more interesting!?
The video is 24 minutes long, and I know nowadays most of us lack the attention span. Therefore, I understand if you do not end up finishing it. 😦 (but I made it as interesting as possible, so you should watch. Hehe)
This is a collaboration post and I asked my 3 participants four questions:
1. What type of person do you have to become in order to attract the type of woman that you want?
2. What is the most difficult obstacle for you when it comes to the ladies? (Ex. Getting a date, approaching her, etc)
3. Would you lie for the sake of your partner’s happiness? And if so, where/when do you draw the line?
4. What is one of the greatest lessons you have learnt about relationships? (This can be a personal experience or something you have witnessed)
This post is a collaboration post I did with my friend, Alex. Instead of always talking about my own opinions from my own perspectives, I thought it would be interesting asking someone else. In the past, Alex and I would have very meaningful and deep conversations over coffee. Although he currently resides in Thailand, the internet has made it easy for us to stay in touch. I really like his answers, and hope you will as well.
Me: Alex, I want to write a post in regards to confidence because I think it is so crucial if you want to succeed in anything. Tell me, what does confidence mean to you?
Alex: I think confidence is being fully comfortable with yourself as a person. Being comfortable with all of your flaws and insecurities and not being afraid to show them. Caring less about what others think and doing what makes you happy instead.
Me: How would you define it?
Alex: Being 100% your true self and not being afraid to express it wherever you are.
Me: I like that!! Everyone’s definition is probably different. To me, confidence is knowing that you’re capable of succeeding if you put in the work. Was there a person who has contributed to your confidence? If so, what did that person do or say to build up your self-esteem and feeling of self-worth?
Alex: One of my good friends living in Korea. He has this never-ending drive to improve himself and I just really admired his determination. Whether it was mastering Korean, starting a business or getting a better job, he made it happen. No matter what. Seeing his drive for being the best motivated me to be the best I could be as well.