Should you be allowed to hang out alone with the opposite sex if you’re in a relationship?

talking with the opposite gender

This is another controversial topic. I’m going to share both side of the arguments before stating what I think.

Why you shouldn’t be allowed 

+ There are no reasons why you need to see your friend alone. You shouldn’t be sharing things with him/her that you wouldn’t be sharing with me.

+ Men and women cannot be friends. Even if you do not like him/her, he/she probably likes you.

+ It’s not that I don’t trust you. I don’t trust him/her.

+ I should be more important than your friend. Is our relationship more important, or your friendship?

Why you should be allowed

+ She/he was in your life before your partner came in. You used to hang out alone all the time.

+ You guys are honestly just friends.

+ Your partner should trust you enough to be ok with you hanging out with the opposite sex.

+ You shouldn’t have to bring your partner everywhere.


I can see the points from both side of the argument. Personally, I would be extremely upset if I had to choose between my guy friends or my partner. I have many guy friends, and there are some I’ve been friends with since elementary school. In my opinion, it is unfair if I cannot even have a coffee with a friend I have known for 20 years without my partner being there. I would feel offended because I would feel like he doesn’t trust me.

However, I do believe that the frequency of the meetups play a very strong factor. Obviously, if I were to see my guy friends alone on a regular basis, it is inappropriate. But if I were to only meet up once or twice a year,  I think it should be acceptable. (Note: This is my personal opinion)

I do have friends who do not allow their partners to see anyone of the opposite sex though. In their opinion, they want to ensure that nothing can ever occur between their partner and their partner’s friends. Therefore, by not ever allowing them to be alone together, they can minimize any possibilities.

Some people are insecure based on past experiences. If they have been cheated on in the past, they probably won’t let you see friends of the opposite sex (alone or in groups). If they do not believe men and women could be friends, they will most likely be against it as well.

Basically, everyone’s comfort level is different. If you have a lot of friends of the opposite sex, you should tell your partner initially. Sometimes, you’re going to have to compromise. Communicate and come up with something that both of you can agree on.

What are your thoughts??

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11 thoughts on “Should you be allowed to hang out alone with the opposite sex if you’re in a relationship?”

  1. I think it depends on the history of the previous friendship you had with your male friend – in the sense that if you both had feelings for each other but because of time and certain circumstances it never worked out – but you still remain friends – then it would be understandable why they should not continue to be friends when they are dating – it causes too many ripples in the relationship

    1. For sure. Thanks for your comment, Moo moo!

      If there were feelings in the past, it makes the whole situation more complicated…hard to be just frds. I mean, even if you try, feelings could come back and screw you over

  2. Well to me it’s rather simple; both are right. The difference is the people in the relationship. Some fit into category A others category B. The only time any problems arise is when the two people in a relationship are from opposite categories. If there is history, this is really a different question then.

    (I’m aware this is an oversimplification.)

    1. I agree! As long as both parties are in the same category, it should be fine.

      Thanks for your comment, Alex 🙂 hehe I like how you read my other posts! What an awesome supporter :p

      1. Haha np xP keep up the content 😉

        Originally I was looking for a different novel by the same name. xP Funny how things turn out.

      2. I’m so glad you ended up reading the novel despite it being something different. I know a lot of people were disappointed that it’s not the novel based on the manga. I have never read it, but I know the manga is extremely popular.

      3. If I’m honest this is actually better quality story than the manga because that seems quite childish. However I couldn’t judge property because I didn’t really like the art style, which is why I looked for the book in the first place.

        Tbh that’s a common problem with manhua based off light novels. The whole theme is ruined by childish drawings because they assume only kids read manhua and only adults read light novels. However it all worked out OK in the end xD

      4. Yay! I’m glad you like this. Hehe. The only manga I have ever read is Ranma 1/2 lollll. It is sooo good.

        The thing with manga is that it is much easier to translate. I do not have to describe expressions or locations. Dialogue is much easier.

      5. I vaguely remember reading that manga and liking it. However it was so long ago that I forgot the basic premise xP

        Hmm that’s true but you also have to get the translation into the bubbles without it affecting the nearby pictures xP

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