A couple days ago, my friend said this to me, “A woman’s loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man’s loyalty is tested when he has everything.” Although it’s simply two sentences, I feel like it holds so much truth.
Would a woman really stay with a man who has nothing? And if a man has everything, would he really be satisfied staying with one woman?
If you were to get onto a bus, and there were only one seat. Assuming you wanted to sit, you would be very grateful to see a seat, and you would happily sit on it. On the other hand, if you were on an empty bus, you would probably not sit on the very first seat you see. Instead, you would try to find a seat that has the best view (along with it being the cleanest and most spacious). I think it’s fair to say that when we have options, we tend to be pickier.
When we like someone, do we actually like them for who they are? Or do we like them for what they can give us?
It’s true. If a man is financially stable, he is a lot more attractive than a man who is not.
Then I wonder, do you like a person because he/she meets your standards?
But, qualities people possess are part of their personalities. That means you like them for who they are, right?
I think divorces are so common nowadays because it is so easy for others to intrude in a marriage/relationship. In the past, before social media and phones, the only ways to contact someone were to find them in person or send a letter.
Now, all one has to do is swipe a couple fingers and he/she will have access to hundreds of people online. It is so easy for someone to flirt or message your significant other.
Do you think there is only one right person for you? Or do you think there are multiple people who can be right for you?
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These are just some of my random thoughts on relationships. What are your thoughts? Sorry my Monday post is a day late!!
Grow with me 
Your post really makes a lot of sense to me and I can connect with it. I’m in a situation right now where I basically have to choose between two guys. I can’t keep going on dates with both of them, but at the same time I don’t want to hurt either of them. They are both really great guys. Honestly though, how do you choose?
Hi!! I think you have to figure out who you like more. If both of them were to stop pursuing you and got into a relationship with someone else, which one would make you more sad?
I think it’s best to be honest once you figure out who you like more. It’s unfair if you keep seeing both guys.
Hi Grace. Great post! I share my thoughts with you all the time. Talk to you soon 🙂
I really like your bus example by the way.
Thank you, Karen!!!!!
P.S. This blog post was inspired by you. I started blogging because of you. You are such an important person to me! ❤
You’re welcome! Haha, I know it was inspired by me. Hehe 😛 You are an important person to me too!! ❤ I get to see you in 17 days! Haha
When we like someone, there’s always that physical attraction at first, maybe they meet your standards as well. If they don’t, you’d eventually learn to love and appreciate their quirks and idiosyncrasies. I do agree that loyalties and how much you love that person or how much that person loves you is tested when one experience hardships because we as people are generally predisposed to want bigger, better things.
In this case, we might look at our partner and ponder whether he/she is holding us back. I personally don’t think that there’s that one right person, keeping in mind that no one is perfect or that one person that meets whatever standards you have. People fall in and out of love all the time; it’s just the matter of learning to love and appreciate that person each day, especially after that honeymoon phase of a relationship.
Thank you for your response, Jennifer!! I agree with you too!! Especially, ” People fall in and out of love all the time; it’s just the matter of learning to love and appreciate that person each day, especially after that honeymoon phase of a relationship.”. ❤
Interesting…hmmm this ones a toughy… love vs needs. This world is always changing..it would be great to fall in love with the person you truly care for regardless of status. Yet society says different especially in regards to different cultures. Men with money always looks good. How many sheep can he give us to offer for her hand in marriage. I know in Chinese culture that stuff is looked at still but modern society is a bit more kinder than the past. I’ll says it’s also confusing because of all these “options”. It also doesn’t help with all the technology now a days. It almost seems as if our lives now revolve with work or our phones. Your correct to say divorce rate is high. Women have taken a different role in society. Independent and able to survive without the need of men. Times sure are changing.. Cheating is also caught on much quicker with all these new gadgets. Bleh i could go on for hours.. Let’s just end this with “Don’t lie to yourself and be honest or at the very least try not to fool yourself”
Thank you for sharing your insight with me! I agree with everything you said :p