I had wanted to write about this book for a very long time, but the last time I read it was around 15 years ago. Time really flies.
I recalled feeling very touched and inspired after reading this, and bought ten copies on a whim to gift to people. (At the time, it was only $9.99. Now, the prices have more than doubled. *sniff* Inflation sucks!)
Anyhow, today, I finally finished rereading the book. Now that it’s fresh on my mind, I’ve written down a few quotes I personally found very touching from the story.
Tuesdays with Morrie is a real-life story about an old man dying from ALS. Morrie shares his life lessons with his student, Mitch, who is the author of this book. It’s a very genuine story that really makes you ponder on life. Here are a few quotes from the novel that evoked a lot of emotions in me:
“Well, Ted, one day soon, someone’s gonna have to wipe my ass.”
Mitch was very accepting of his condition and knew he was dying. But this was one thing he dreaded the most. Because when you need someone to wipe your ass, you no longer have the ability to take care of yourself. It is such a sad realization. Society also makes us feel very ashamed.
Despite so, Morrie was grateful he had the time and mental state to say goodbye to those he loved.
“I traded a lot of dreams for a bigger paycheck, and I never even realized I was doing it.”
This is also so sad. I think most of us would choose a bigger paycheck over our dreams. Sometimes, we just need that stability in order to survive or maintain our quality of life. It’s really hard to find a balance.
I just hope that we can still dream a bit, and chase some of our passions even if it doesn’t pay.
“Everyone knows they’re going to die, but no one believes it. If we did, we would do things differently.”
Death seems to be something that’s so far away. For those of us who are in our 20s or 30s, we probably think we still have several decades left; perhaps working another thirty years or so before even thinking of retirement. But who knows when life will end?
I don’t want to regret, so I’m going to do the things I want to do now before it’s too late.
“This is part of what a family is about, not just love, but letting others know there’s someone who is watching out for them. It’s what I missed so much when my mother died –what I call your ‘spiritual security’ –knowing that your family will be there watching out for you. Nothing else will give you that. Not money. Not fame.”
Knowing that there’s someone watching out for me is very comforting. I’m really lucky both my parents are still around. Although the generation/cultural gap makes it very tough sometimes, I am grateful for everything they’ve done for me.
I’m learning to cherish and forgive.
“You know what that reflects?? Unsatisfied lives. Unfulfilled lives. Lives that haven’t found meaning. Because if you’ve found meaning in your life, you don’t want to go back. You want to go forward. You want to see more, do more. You can’t wait until sixty-five.”
I want to see and do more. If I’ve lived a meaningful life, I think I’d be much more ok with letting go.
“When I give my time, when I can make someone smile after they were feeling sad, it’s as close to healthy as I ever feel.”
It also makes me feel really good whenever people say my blog posts really make a positive difference in their lives. ❤ Thank you for reading!!!
“There are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage. If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.”
Respect, compromise, communication, and a common set of life values. They’re all so important. What’s the toughest for you?
“People are only mean when they are threatened. And that’s what our culture does. That’s what our economy does. Even people who have jobs in our economy are threatened, because they worry about losing them. And when you get threatened, you start looking only for yourself. You start making money a god.”
This reminds me of a quote that really stood out to me from the movie, Parasite. “If I were rich, I’d be nice too.” Sigh. I’m really fortunate to be living in a first-world country. Things are expensive, and we have a lot of problems, but it’s nothing compared to those living in a third-world country or in extreme poverty.
“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”
Morrie didn’t live long after his diagnosis. But his story remains and continues to touch millions of lives. I would highly recommend this book if you haven’t read it before.
I hope this novel touches you as much as it touched me.