Should you be allowed to hang out alone with the opposite sex if you’re in a relationship?

talking with the opposite gender

This is another controversial topic. I’m going to share both side of the arguments before stating what I think.

Why you shouldn’t be allowed 

+ There are no reasons why you need to see your friend alone. You shouldn’t be sharing things with him/her that you wouldn’t be sharing with me.

+ Men and women cannot be friends. Even if you do not like him/her, he/she probably likes you.

+ It’s not that I don’t trust you. I don’t trust him/her.

+ I should be more important than your friend. Is our relationship more important, or your friendship?

Why you should be allowed

+ She/he was in your life before your partner came in. You used to hang out alone all the time.

+ You guys are honestly just friends.

+ Your partner should trust you enough to be ok with you hanging out with the opposite sex.

+ You shouldn’t have to bring your partner everywhere.

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I can see the points from both side of the argument. Personally, I would be extremely upset if I had to choose between my guy friends or my partner. I have many guy friends, and there are some I’ve been friends with since elementary school. In my opinion, it is unfair if I cannot even have a coffee with a friend I have known for 20 years without my partner being there. I would feel offended because I would feel like he doesn’t trust me.

However, I do believe that the frequency of the meetups play a very strong factor. Obviously, if I were to see my guy friends alone on a regular basis, it is inappropriate. But if I were to only meet up once or twice a year,  I think it should be acceptable. (Note: This is my personal opinion)

I do have friends who do not allow their partners to see anyone of the opposite sex though. In their opinion, they want to ensure that nothing can ever occur between their partner and their partner’s friends. Therefore, by not ever allowing them to be alone together, they can minimize any possibilities.

Some people are insecure based on past experiences. If they have been cheated on in the past, they probably won’t let you see friends of the opposite sex (alone or in groups). If they do not believe men and women could be friends, they will most likely be against it as well.

Basically, everyone’s comfort level is different. If you have a lot of friends of the opposite sex, you should tell your partner initially. Sometimes, you’re going to have to compromise. Communicate and come up with something that both of you can agree on.

What are your thoughts??

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How to escape the Friendzone

Friendzone

NOTE: I am the translator of “The Eunuch is Pregnant”. My translations have been stolen by at least 20+ sites. The reason why you’re seeing this right now is because I’m letting the bots steal my blog posts since they keep stealing my content. I figured I might as well promote something that may help you guys rather than posting the google translations of the chapter. Please read from my original site. It is theeunuch dot com. You can use novelupdates dot com to keep track of your novels and it will link you to the actual translation sites.

Disclaimer: This is based on my experience and my opinions. It may or may not work for you. However, my intention is to help you. Normally, I would not share something like this…(I’m serious)

1. Don’t be a friend

If you are looking for more than friendship, don’t act like a friend. If you’re going to act like a good friend, don’t be surprised if the girl sees you as only a friend.

Based on my experience, Caucasian guys tend to have way more confidence than Asian guys. They tend to make their intentions obvious from the start; making it difficult for women to friendzone them.

For example: “I find you attractive, and I would like to take you out on a date.”
“When I first saw you, I already knew. You’re the one I want.”

What does this mean?

#1. He cannot be friendzoned because he was never a friend to begin with.
#2. He does not intend to be a friend, so he cannot be friendzoned.

You see?? Some guys think if they start off as friends, maybe eventually the girl will realize how great/nice/awesome/amazing he is, and date him later on.

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Why people test each other

Relationship test

This week’s relationship topic was suggested by my friend, Dan. I am focusing on relationships here, but in general, people test each other all the time.

Here are some of the reasons why I think people test each other in relationships:

1. They want to know how much you care. For instance, a person might stop texting for a couple of days to see if the other person would initiate. A person might ask a ridiculous question and see how you react/respond. Ex. Would you save me or _______ if we both fell in the river? (This is a stupid question, but it’s a common one)

2. They want to know their competition. By asking questions such as: “Do you think she/he is attractive?” The person will be able to tell what type of girls/guys you are into (unless you lie). Some people may ask and get jealous by the answers (because they want to be your only object of desire). Some may ask simply due to curiosity; and some may ask so they know how to avoid/get rid of their competition.

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The One That Got Away

The one that got away

Since relationship is such a popular topic, I said I would blog about it once a week separate of my Monday post.

This week’s topic was suggested by my beloved Moo Moo (lol that’s her nickname). It’s a bit personal, but you guys like these type of posts. So, I guess I am sharing. Haha.

Throughout my life, I have had various men that came and left my life. (Okay, this sounds really bad. I’m honestly not a player. -_-) But I was naive and foolish back then; I didn’t hold onto them when I had the chance.

Thinking back, if I had made a difference choice back then, my life could have been totally different.

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Speed Dating

speed dating.gif

This is actually my 100th post and my 2nd anniversary blogging on WordPress. Since my friends on facebook love relationship posts so much, I thought I’d share my experience at speed dating.

In December, I went speed dating with a friend of mines. I had never done anything like this before, so I had no expectations. In fact, I wasn’t even planning to look for someone. Anyhow, allow me to explain to you how it works.

The website is called 25dates.com . First, you select your preference. Then, you select where you live near to (you will see what I mean if you go on the site). Then, you will be able to look for an event that matches the age preference that you want and register.

Our venue was at a lounge. When we arrived, we were assigned a number. Women were given an even number, while men were given an odd number.

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Can Men and Women be purely friends?

Men and women

To my dear readers,

This was a topic that I was originally going to post about last Monday. However, I was very hesitant because I did not want to upset or offend anyone with my opinions. After posting my “Conflicted” post, I have decided that I will, in fact, blog about what I want to blog about.

Please remember that this is my opinion. You may or may not agree, but I welcome your feedback.

This post assumes that the men and women are heterosexual*

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