A hater is described as someone who strongly dislikes a specified person or a thing. Usually, we realize they are haters by the type of comments they make.
Things to know about haters:
1.Their comments are always negative.
2. Sometimes they hate for no reason.
3. When something bad happens to the person they hate, the haters think the person deserves it.
4. Haters tend to be extremely brutal online. (Perhaps because they can hate behind a screen, and never be confronted in person?)
5. The more famous you are, the more haters you will attract.
Now, I’m not saying I am a saint myself. I, like everyone else, have people and things I dislike and hate. However, I try my best to keep the negativity to myself. I do not want to say things to promote more hate or negative emotions.
Remember, you cannot make everyone like you. Chances are, there are people out there who dislikes or hates you. And that’s okay. Be proud of who you are and just be yourself. Learn to accept your flaws and imperfections. If you struggle with confidence, you can click here to learn how to build more confidence.
Words can lift us up or drag us down. Sadly for me, I have experienced a lot of negative emotions because of hurtful things that were said to me in the past. Although those people were not haters, their comments were extremely harsh and mean.
Some of you who follow my blog or know me in real life may know that I was very sick last year (and still in the process of healing). Last December, I was in the hospital for 2 months in China. You can read about it here. At the time, I was in a terrible state. I was in a lot of pain and I looked dreadful. However, as much as I knew how terrible I looked, I did not expect such crude remarks.
I shared a room with 2 other roommates, and one day, one of my roommates had visitors. They came into the room and stared at me. Then, they asked my roommate, “What’s wrong with her? She looks so bad.” Keep in mind, this was said in front of my face while I was in the room. My roommate then responded, “You think her face looks bad? You haven’t even seen her legs. She doesn’t even look human.”
I was so hurt. I wanted to cry on the spot. I mean, I knew I looked awful, but they didn’t have to say it in my face. Despite knowing the fact I could understand the language, my roommate felt she had every right to say what she wanted because it was the truth.
Another incident that occurred while I was in the hospital was when a random lady from across my room came in and said, “Oh my goodness. Who would ever want you now? I feel so bad for you. No man would ever want someone like you.”
This was from a random stranger that I do not know. She came up and said that in my face. Most Chinese people honestly do not care about your feelings.
It’s not just China though. Even in Canada, I had to go through a lot. Some other hurtful things that were said to me include:
“When I look at you, I lose all my appetite.”
“I’m surprised you have the courage to go outside, have you looked in front of the mirror?”
“What’s wrong with your face?”
It really hurts.
People need to understand that when you make a mean remark, even if it’s true, it can really affect someone. How would you like it if someone said that to you? Please think deeply before saying something mean the next time you’re tempted to.
People may forgive, but they will never forget.
16 thoughts on “Haters”
Grace, you don’t deserve that kind of language or comment thrown towards you. People can be really cruel and mean. Don’t take it to heart. Those people, especially the ones in China, have no feelings for others and don’t know what it means to say something like that. They have no manners. I hope you never have anyone say those things to you again, and that you’ll be so much stronger from this. ❤
Thanks for your comment, Karen!! I know you’re super busy right now YET u still find time to read my blog and comment. :’) *tears of joy* Hahaha. Thank you. I think I’ve become much stronger now. It’s like the song, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, stand a little taller…*something something something*”
I left a little late for coring because I wanted to read your blog and also cuz I wanted to comment on your blog right away after reading it. You mean a lot to me, Grace! Our friendship is so precious 🙂 I know you’re super strong and I know you can take anything that is thrown in your way.
Aww thanks Karen! ❤
Everyone in some ways judge others, it’s our nature to do it. However, some people can be so quick to judge, but just keep in mind, they may not know who you are, or don’t know who you are, your story, etc. Those who don’t put an effort in getting to know you beyond the surface is not worth your time.
Thanks for your comment, Jennifer!! ❤ I know they don't know me personally and their opinions shouldn't matter.
I'll only spend time with those who care and loves me =P (like u) Hehe
Wow that’s rough…Chinese can be pretty direct. And sounds like you had a pretty shitty roommate. I always use naysayers and haters as fuel to prove them wrong.
One of my favourite quotes of all time is from the movie Rocky Balboa (If you haven’t watched it yet, highly recommended):
“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!”
Anyways keep focusing on the positive things and fighting the good fight!
Thanks for your comment, Alex!!! I know you’ve recently read a lot of my posts! Thank you so much. ❤ It means a lot to me.
Thanks for the quote. I will try my best to stay positive. Keep moving forward! =D
I’m really sorry those things were said to you. I wish you all the best.
Thank you so much for your kinds words.
Thanks for sharing. Sorry to hear you had to go through such a rough experience even when you were at your lowest. Hope you have had many happy memories after that to mitigate the hurtful feelings.
Thank you, Ambi! My face has healed so I look quite normal now.
I’m a tough cookie, so it’s alright. It’s just sad how cruel some people could be (without knowing). Thank you for reading!