A hater is described as someone who strongly dislikes a specified person or a thing. Usually, we realize they are haters by the type of comments they make.
Things to know about haters:
1.Their comments are always negative.
2. Sometimes they hate for no reason.
3. When something bad happens to the person they hate, the haters think the person deserves it.
4. Haters tend to be extremely brutal online. (Perhaps because they can hate behind a screen, and never be confronted in person?)
5. The more famous you are, the more haters you will attract.
Now, I’m not saying I am a saint myself. I, like everyone else, have people and things I dislike and hate. However, I try my best to keep the negativity to myself. I do not want to say things to promote more hate or negative emotions.
Remember, you cannot make everyone like you. Chances are, there are people out there who dislikes or hates you. And that’s okay. Be proud of who you are and just be yourself. Learn to accept your flaws and imperfections. If you struggle with confidence, you can click here to learn how to build more confidence.
Words can lift us up or drag us down. Sadly for me, I have experienced a lot of negative emotions because of hurtful things that were said to me in the past. Although those people were not haters, their comments were extremely harsh and mean.
Some of you who follow my blog or know me in real life may know that I was very sick last year (and still in the process of healing). Last December, I was in the hospital for 2 months in China. You can read about it here. At the time, I was in a terrible state. I was in a lot of pain and I looked dreadful. However, as much as I knew how terrible I looked, I did not expect such crude remarks.
I shared a room with 2 other roommates, and one day, one of my roommates had visitors. They came into the room and stared at me. Then, they asked my roommate, “What’s wrong with her? She looks so bad.” Keep in mind, this was said in front of my face while I was in the room. My roommate then responded, “You think her face looks bad? You haven’t even seen her legs. She doesn’t even look human.”
I was so hurt. I wanted to cry on the spot. I mean, I knew I looked awful, but they didn’t have to say it in my face. Despite knowing the fact I could understand the language, my roommate felt she had every right to say what she wanted because it was the truth.
Another incident that occurred while I was in the hospital was when a random lady from across my room came in and said, “Oh my goodness. Who would ever want you now? I feel so bad for you. No man would ever want someone like you.”
This was from a random stranger that I do not know. She came up and said that in my face. Most Chinese people honestly do not care about your feelings.
It’s not just China though. Even in Canada, I had to go through a lot. Some other hurtful things that were said to me include:
“When I look at you, I lose all my appetite.”
“I’m surprised you have the courage to go outside, have you looked in front of the mirror?”
“What’s wrong with your face?”
It really hurts.
People need to understand that when you make a mean remark, even if it’s true, it can really affect someone. How would you like it if someone said that to you? Please think deeply before saying something mean the next time you’re tempted to.
People may forgive, but they will never forget.