Effective communication allows you to deepen your connections to others and improve teamwork, decision making, and problem solving.
Effective communication means:
+ The parties understand each other’s perspectives.
+ The parties feel like they are being acknowledged.
+ The parties feel like their needs are being met.
+ There is no misunderstanding.
No wonder, communication is key in every successful relationship.
Note: Communication is not only about words. Sometimes, what is not being said is even more important!
You have to realize and understand that not everyone will tell you how they feel. But they will show you. Pay attention.
Nonverbal communication is actually more powerful than verbal communication. Notice the person’s body language. Action speaks louder than words. If a person is interested in what you are saying, he/she will usually look at you when you’re talking. He or she will lean in a bit, and the body will be more open (Ex. arms stretched out).
However, if a person does not want to communicate with you, you will see that he/she will have a closed body (Imagine how you usually stand in an elevator filled with strangers. Most people are trying their hardest to avoid any physical contact). The body is usually stiff and very awkward. Usually, their bodies will be turning from you instead of facing you.
Reading others’ body language gets better with practice. But once you have mastered it, it can get very interesting. Once you can sense how someone feels towards you, you have 2 options:
1. Allow him/her to continue feeling this way
2. Change your behaviour to see if he/she will also change
You can actually almost control the situation.
So, how can you communicate more effectively?
+ Show positive body language. It makes the person feel like you want to listen to them.
+ Pay attention. It means not doing something else while you’re talking to someone. Give them your undivided attention. Tone of voice conveys emotion, so if you’re thinking about other things (Ex. Checking text messages), you’re almost certain to miss the nonverbal cues and the emotional content behind the words being spoken.
+ Be clear to avoid misunderstandings. “See you next week.” And “See you next Friday at 6 pm” can make a huge difference.
+ Express how you feel. This can be tough for some. Some people do not feel comfortable expressing themselves verbally. Some people are a lot more comfortable expressing themselves through writing/drawing/dancing/singing/so on. But there are also some people who do not like expressing themselves at all. Remember though, if you do not express yourself, the person you are talking to will have a harder time trying to understand you and your perspective.
Lastly, I would like to remind you that hearing is not the same as listening. When you are really listening, you will be more engaged and truly understand the person better.
13 thoughts on “Communication”
You sound like a professional life coach in this blog post, Grace! I like this new layout. It makes your blog very professional-looking and an expert to consult from. I can guarantee your stats will go up because of this. And more followers too! Great job writing!!! 🙂
Awww, thanks Karen!! I am trying to make my blog look more professional too. Haha. Thank you for reading and thanks for all your support!
I hope more people will read my blog. Please check out my “Blog album” on facebook as well. =D Haha, I found a lot of images on google to make my posts look more appealing.
You’re very welcome Grace! Keep up the great work! You never know. You could get soon hired for a writing position at some online company because of your great posts. Seriously! 🙂 I forgot to say that I loved your post and that effective communication is really so necessary for everything. However, it really is difficult to achieve sometimes. Not everyone is good at it. How can we become better at communicating with each other?
Awww, Karen, you always make me sound so good!! Thank you! Haha, I don’t think so, but if it ever happens, you’ll be the first one I’ll thank. =P
I think communication is a 2 way street. If only one person wants to communicate, it wouldn’t work. But if both parties make the effort to, I’m sure things will work out as long as they are both willing to listen and understand each other.
I agree with you about the both parties thing. It takes two to tangle! 🙂
Nice analogy with Romeo and Julie, Grace! “Be clear to avoid misunderstandings.” The plan was not communicated earlier, due to circumstance or otherwise, with truly disastrous results!
My two cents is: in addition, being clear and absolutely sincere does help build that long term trust, vs the unclarified actions which on occasion cause misunderstanding and unhappiness. That trust banked is key to a relationship.esp during more difficult times 🙂
Omg!! Thank you! For some reason, your comment was unread by me!! *blame wordpress for not giving me a proper notification*
Yes, I totally agree with you!!!! Thank you for taking the time to comment. ❤
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for reading!!