Disclaimer: I’m not a parent. This post is based on my observations and interactions with my friends who are parents.
In the past few years, many of my friends have gotten married and started families of their own.
I’m extremely happy and proud of them. It is INCREDIBLY hard to be a parent.
On social media, my homepage is always flooded with cute pictures of babies. On Halloween, my friends would dress their babies in super cute costumes (For example: a sushi! Oh my goodness, I want to eat that sushi! *drools* Spicy salmon is my favourite!)
Anyhow, the point is, online, I only see the cute and happy side of being a parent.
However, when I actually hang out with my friends and their kids, I see the difficult side that social media doesn’t display.
A few weeks ago, I saw some of my friends for the first time in months. I spent the whole day with them and I got to experience what being a parent actually meant.
This is what I learnt:
1. It’s not about what you want anymore. Your kids are the #1 priority. Their needs must be met before yours. This means, you don’t eat until after they eat. You don’t sleep until after they sleep. Your schedule is the baby’s schedule.
2. You have no life. My friends’ kids sleep at 8:30pm. If they are out, they aim to get home by 7:30 so that they can shower and put them to bed. My friends also recently have a newborn. The wife has to pump milk out every 5 hours, while the husband is changing the diapers every two to three hours.
3. You’re giving unconditionally. I have never seen such unconditional love elsewhere. When you’re a parent, you want to give your child everything you have. You want to give them the best opportunities and experiences. You want them to succeed in life. You want them to be filled with joy and happiness (even though sometimes they pee and poo all over you & drives you insane).
I asked my friends, “What is the hardest part about being a parent?”
Wife responds, “Sometimes, they mentally challenge you. They really test your patience. If I’m tired or hungry, I get irritated very easily.”
Husband responds, “No life. No sleep. It’s lots of work.”
“What’s the best part about being a parent?”
Wife responds, “Watching your child grow. Watching him turn from the tiny baby into a child that has his own thoughts and ideas. It’s really great when I can have an actual conversation with my child.”
Husband responds, “When he hugs me and says, ‘Daddy, I love you.’ It makes it all worth it.”
Watching my friends take care of their children really touched my heart. Being a parent requires so much patience, and it definitely requires a high level of maturity.
It’s a conflicting emotion as well, because although I can tell they’re exhausted, I know that deep down they don’t want their children to grow up so quickly.
Sometimes, even though it’s tiring, you want your children to be reliant on you. Knowing that they need you can be very reassuring.
If you are a parent reading this, I want to say, “Good job! You’re doing great! Keep it up! I know it must be tiring but you can do it!”
Children are just so cute and innocent. Ugghhhh. Here’s a video of a cute little girl singing the song from “A little mermaid”. SO FREAKING CUTE!!!!
Imagine having a little princess like that? Don’t you just want to shower her with love?
How can she remember all the lyrics?? I’m so impressed! Haha. Hope you enjoyed this post.