This is a topic that has been on my mind for quite some time. In life, we have a tendency to blame others for our problems or failures. When something doesn’t go the way we want it to, it’s usually, “Oh, it’s because of ________.” Or it’s because ________ happened”.
Most of us rarely admit, “It’s our fault.”
That is because, we don’t like thinking it’s our fault.
We blame everyone but ourselves.
For example, if you had a bad professor and you did poorly in the class, you might say, “It’s because of the prof! He/she can’t teach! It’s so unfair. He/she is totally biased.” And so on.
However, stop for a minute and ask yourself.
What did you do?
Did you attend every class?
If you did, were you paying attention?
Did you procrastinate on your assignment?
There are many factors that could affect your grade. Yes, perhaps the professor was bad, but you were the one who made the choice to attend class or not; to pay attention or not; to procrastinate or not.
You are responsible for your own actions.
Remember, bad things happen to everyone, but you do not have to react a certain way.
If you blame everyone else for your problems, you are literally saying you have no control over your life. Don’t allow others to dictate your life. Be the driver of your emotions.
In addition, if people can sense how you will react, they can easily choose to manipulate you. Think about it. Those who are successful are not easily fazed.
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“If you blame everyone else for your problems, you are literally saying you have no control over your life. Don’t allow others to dictate your life. Be the driver of your emotions.” Agree, Grace! Ultimately, we can take charge of our actions and emotions, and do great!
Your post is true…. it give a real advice…. normally human nature is say wrong and mistake in others…we never accept our mistakes…
i had this bad habit in my past…. but Lord helps to remove that habit…
each and everything i realize and think more times…
but some time wrong things happen… we cant stop that wrong…
you are express good advice to all…
thanks for your post because i remember my past bad incidents….
Thank you Jesus for give me a chance to read a nice post…
God bless you gchan ..
continue your best job…congratsss
Thank you for taking the time to read so many of my posts!!! And thank you for sharing your advices with all of us as well. 🙂 I like how you include pictures in your posts too!!
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for reading 🙂
It actually has to do with individual people’s locus of control, an aspect of personalities. People with an external locus will always feel that their circumstances are to blame, while people with an internal locus often believe that everything is their fault when it might literally not be. Like a woman who happens to be in a failing relationship cuz her partner is shitty but she’s so sure that it’s her responsibility as a person in a relationship and therefore somehow her fault.
Thanks for sharing!! That’s very interesting… a balance would be ideal, I guess!