Dating: Young vs Old.

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When you’re young, dating is very simple and innocent. Usually, you want to be with the person simply because you like him/her. It’s typically more fairy-tale like.

However, when you’re older, attraction is not enough (if you’re looking for something serious). There are way more things that play a factor in whether you would want to be with a person for the long term.

For instance:

Would you want the person to be the mother/father of your child?

Is he/she financially stable?

Does he/she want kids?

Could you stand living with him/her?

Is he/she supportive of your goals and dreams?

And so on.

You might say, “Well, that’s not true. I don’t think about that stuff when I’m dating.” Haha. I think this highly depends on your age and how serious you are. If you’re just looking for fun and something short term, it definitely wouldn’t matter. However, if you’re at an age where you feel pressured or you want to settle down, then the answers to these questions are actually very important.  Continue reading “Dating: Young vs Old.”

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Taking Responsibility

Responsible

This is a topic that has been on my mind for quite some time. In life, we have a tendency to blame others for our problems or failures. When something doesn’t go the way we want it to, it’s usually, “Oh, it’s because of ________.” Or it’s because ________ happened”.

Most of us rarely admit, “It’s our fault.”

That is because, we don’t like thinking it’s our fault.

We blame everyone but ourselves. 

For example, if you had a bad professor and you did poorly in the class, you might say, “It’s because of the prof! He/she can’t teach! It’s so unfair. He/she is totally biased.” And so on.

However, stop for a minute and ask yourself.

What did you do? 

Did you attend every class?

If you did, were you paying attention?

Did you procrastinate on your assignment?

There are many factors that could affect your grade. Yes, perhaps the professor was bad, but you were the one who made the choice to attend class or not; to pay attention or not; to procrastinate or not.

You are responsible for your own actions. 


Remember, bad things happen to everyone, but you do not have to react a certain way.

If you blame everyone else for your problems, you are literally saying you have no control over your life. Don’t allow others to dictate your life. Be the driver of your emotions.

In addition, if people can sense how you will react, they can easily choose to manipulate you. Think about it. Those who are successful are not easily fazed.

Accountable

P.S. I have another award nomination post that I will be posting this coming week! (Basically, I have to answer some questions about myself, haha) So if you want to find out more about me, stay tuned! I was nominated 2 weeks ago but I had to complete the quote challenge first.

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