When you’re young, dating is very simple and innocent. Usually, you want to be with the person simply because you like him/her. It’s typically more fairy-tale like.
However, when you’re older, attraction is not enough (if you’re looking for something serious). There are way more things that play a factor in whether you would want to be with a person for the long term.
Would you want the person to be the mother/father of your child?
Is he/she financially stable?
Does he/she want kids?
Could you stand living with him/her?
Is he/she supportive of your goals and dreams?
And so on.
You might say, “Well, that’s not true. I don’t think about that stuff when I’m dating.” Haha. I think this highly depends on your age and how serious you are. If you’re just looking for fun and something short term, it definitely wouldn’t matter. However, if you’re at an age where you feel pressured or you want to settle down, then the answers to these questions are actually very important.
As a female coming from a traditional background, my mom constantly nags me to find a man to settle down with. She is worried that I will be a “left over” woman (basically, women who end up alone without a spouse). Generally, Asian families want their daughters to settle down no later than 30.
While I can understand, I don’t want to get married just for the sake of it. I feel like the reasoning is too crappy “Get marry so you won’t end up alone.” -_-”
It’s not that I want to be alone. However, if I can’t find someone that adds value to my life, I’d rather be alone. Haha.
Hmmm… or maybe I just don’t like responsibility. My friend told me, “Responsibility is the killer of attraction.” LOL
For now, I’m just going to chill and not “panic” too much. 😉
Note: There are endless possibilities. You never know who you’ll meet -online or in real life. Keep your eyes open! 😛