How to escape the Friendzone

Friendzone

Disclaimer: This is based on my experience and my opinions. It may or may not work for you. However, my intention is to help you. Normally, I would not share something like this…(I’m serious)

1. Don’t be a friend

If you are looking for more than friendship, don’t act like a friend. If you’re going to act like a good friend, don’t be surprised if the girl sees you as only a friend.

Based on my experience, Caucasian guys tend to have way more confidence than Asian guys. They tend to make their intentions obvious from the start; making it difficult for women to friendzone them.

For example: “I find you attractive, and I would like to take you out on a date.”
“When I first saw you, I already knew. You’re the one I want.”

What does this mean?

#1. He cannot be friendzoned because he was never a friend to begin with.
#2. He does not intend to be a friend, so he cannot be friendzoned.

You see?? Some guys think if they start off as friends, maybe eventually the girl will realize how great/nice/awesome/amazing he is, and date him later on.

Most of the time, that does not happen.

I would suggest, show interest from the start. Perhaps, you will have a better chance.

If you have developed a friendship for years, EVEN IF the girl would initially consider you as a potential, she might not want to risk everything you guys already have.

By the way, if you’re expecting something for being nice…then you’re not really a nice guy. It’s conditional. Don’t do it. Women hate it.

2. Take control 

Stop waiting for something to happen. Most likely, your friend/the girl will not pursue you. If you are hoping she will msg you to hang out one random day, you can wait forever.

If you want something to happen, then do something. Ask her to hang out? Msg her?

However, you must realize that even if you do something, there’s a chance nothing will happen.

Without action though, you have no chance.

Note: Don’t ask her permission to hang out with you. That’s really unattractive. Ex. Would you hang out with me? (NO NO NO NO NO).

3. Find out what she likes 

If you know what she likes, you can suggest doing that activity.

For example: If you know she likes snowboarding, suggest it. “My friends and I are going snowboarding ______. Would you like to join us?” *NOTE: This is assuming if you guys do not have the same circle of friends. If you are in the same circle, it probably wouldn’t make a difference.

She may or may not say yes. But if it’s something she enjoys, you have a higher chance of getting her to come out.

Remember, you have no chance if you can’t get her out. 

4. Show her you can enjoy life with or without her 

Guys, girls can sense desperation from a mile away. If you’re constantly demanding or craving her attention, she will not value you very much (unless, she is also very emotionally dependent).

Make sure you’re actually doing something with your life. It is okay if you’re busy at times. Don’t be available 24/7.

If you do all of the above and she still doesn’t seem to have a reaction, she is not interested.

Move on. Don’t let a woman ruin your life. 

Note: Women typically want someone who can provide for them (either financially, emotionally, physically, or all 3). Do you know what she is looking for? If you possess the traits she values, then you have a much higher chance.

By the way, women get friendzoned too. So don’t take it too personally, guys. This post isn’t targeted towards females because I do not know how to help them out. However, any suggestions on how women can get out of the friendzone would be appreciated. Help the ladies out. 😉

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P.S. If you’re trying to meet someone online, you need an attractive profile. I’m not only talking about the profile pic. If you want a girl who actually cares about your character, make sure you spend some time demonstrating that. If you need help, my friend Alex can help you. You can check him out here .

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About gchan7127

I just want to share all my knowledge, ideas, and experiences with the world. It makes me happy to know that I can inspire others.
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13 Responses to How to escape the Friendzone

  1. How many times have you been friendzoned or you friend zoned a guy?

    • gchan7127 says:

      lol I don’t count.. haha. Most of my high school friends who are in relationships with my friends are automatically friendzoned… and I’m sure they friendzoned me as well. Umm, if they’re an acquaintance, I usually don’t friendzone them (they’re not my friends to begin with LOL).

      I just know I get friendzoned a lot and I friendzoned a lot too:P What about u? Do you keep track? AHAHAHA

  2. wongstah says:

    Hey, great post Grace! Lots of good tips to help guys avoid the friendzone. I couldn’t agree more with 1. Don’t be a friend. The biggest mistake I see guys make is not making their intentions clear from the get-go. If you never say or do anything, how is the girl supposed to know? The sooner you can do this in the relationship, the better. Either she’s going to accept your advances or won’t. But at least, you’ll have a clear idea of where you guys stand.

    Also thanks for the shoutout 🙂

    • gchan7127 says:

      Thanks, Alex! Haha. I hope it can help people.

      I agree with you! Haha. If the guy shows interest from the start, I honestly think he has a better chance.

      You’re welcome. I like your site. You’re good at marketing yourself! 😉

      • wongstah says:

        Yes, even if it’s a 1% chance, it’s better than not doing anything at all (which is 0%). Just like hockey legend, Wayne Gretzky, has said “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”

        And thanks, I really like your site too! You have a lot of interesting content. Keep it up!

  3. Akkhun says:

    2 simple rules for escaping the friend zone.
    1)Be attractive
    2) Don’t be unattractive
    xP

    • Akkhun says:

      If I’m going to be 100% serious though. Friend zone is made up. I have always approached as a friend. The problem most people have is that they mix up being a friend and being a subordinate. With friendship as the foundation of my relationship now I’m happily married.

      • gchan7127 says:

        Ohhh, thank you for sharing! 🙂

        Yeah, some people think the friendzone is made up..I guess it depends on the person’s definition?? Perhaps it’s just a matter of whether the person is attracted or not. I’m glad you are now happily married 😀

    • gchan7127 says:

      LOL I’ve heard of that before 😛

    • Akkhun says:

      Hmm what I meant was that instead of acting like a friend they act like a subordinate. For example with my friends
      ..we regularly insult each other in a banter type way. I do that with my wife too and she does it back. So it’s like an actual friend. However lots of people think doing everything for someone without having any self respect is being friendly.

      • Akkhun says:

        Generally no one acts that way with a genuine friend… they act that way with their boss because they’re trying to get a raise or something. …it’s not very genuine.

      • gchan7127 says:

        I see what you mean! Yeah, it’s bad if they act like a subordinate or a slave… I totally know what you are saying. Thank you for your input!!

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