This is another topic that will probably spark a lot of debate. I’ve asked some of my friends before and here are some of their opinions:
What the guys say
“No. It’s unfair. Women want to be treated equally. So why do I have to pay for the date? We can split 50/50. It’s unfair how we men are expected to always pay.”
“Yes, because if I don’t…I won’t get a second date. Game over yo.”
“No. I would never pay for the first couple of dates. That’s spoiling her. What if she expects me to always pay? I have to see if I want to invest in her first. Maybe after a couple of dates, I might consider.”
“I kinda expect to pay, but I would be happy if she offers to split.”
What the ladies say
“Guys should pay. When they are courting us, they’re already showing their best sides. If he won’t even pay for a damn meal, then he’s not gonna do much for you later on.”
“No. I can pay for myself. I’d rather pay for myself so I don’t owe him anything.”
“I think guys should pay because it’s a gentleman thing to do. Maybe they can pay for the bigger portion of the date. Ex. Dinner. And the lady can pay for the movies or desserts. Or take turns.”
“If he doesn’t pay, I assume he is not romantically interested in me.”
What I think
In my opinion, if your first date is at a coffee shop, and the lady arrives before the guy does, she should pay for her own drink and not wait for him to arrive to pay. However, if the bill comes at the end of the date, I think the guy should pay if he is romantically interested in his date.
However, the lady should at least offer to split the bill. As for the guy, he could say, “I got this one. You can get the next.” That way, he has indicated that he would like to see her again, and she could pay for the next date (which would make it more fair).
The woman should at least pay for something by the 3rd date. It’s unfair if the guy always have to pay because dates aren’t cheap (unless all you do is go for coffee, haha). Guys have expenses too, and it’s definitely ridiculous if they always have to fork out 2x the amount.
Note: This varies depending on culture though. In Asia, men are usually expected to pay for most/all dates. They tend to follow traditions. Some guys feel less capable if they are unable to pay for the date. Therefore, sometimes it could be rude for the woman to split the bill.
What are your thoughts??
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