3 helpful dating tips for men (and women!)

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Hello, my dear readers!

This post is based on my own experiences and is biased. Please understand there isn’t something that will work for every single woman/man. My intention is to help you. These tips are for the initial stage when you’re trying to get her/him interested.

1. Ask for her advice 

Oftentimes, guys may notice someone they find attractive but do not know how to approach them without seeming creepy or desperate.

Well, I have the perfect solution for you! Go up to your “target” and ask for her opinion.

Women love to share their thoughts and give advice. Use this to your advantage. For example, you can go up to her and ask, “Hey. I’m debating between this *show her the item* and this *show her the other item*. I would like to get a woman’s opinion. Which would you choose and why?”

Unless you come off as a creep, chances are, she will stop and give you her opinion.

Once you get her talking, it is much easier to carry on the conversation. Notice her body language though. If she looks uncomfortable and wants to leave, don’t push it and just thank her for her time.

(A woman can do this too. It might seem rather bold, but I’m sure most men wouldn’t mind.) 

2. Give her your number instead of asking for hers 

Whenever a guy asks me, “Can I have your number?” I naturally want to say no. I don’t know why, but maybe I just don’t like giving out my contacts. Or perhaps, I don’t like the word, “Can I?”

However, I’ve noticed that whenever a guy gives me his number and says, “Text me.” I would actually do it!

I am quite sure this has to do with confidence and perhaps the fact that he is allowing me to choose whether or not I would like to stay in contact with him.

In addition, guys, you don’t have anything to lose if she doesn’t text you. If she does text you, great! If she doesn’t, then at least you’ve tried and it’s not like she verbally rejected you.

Whereas, if you ask her for her number, she could say no. Even if she doesn’t say no, she could give you a fake number or ignore you when you do text her.

3. Remember the PP rule and only text her if the message is SSI

Haha, you’re probably confused. What’s PP? What’s SSI? Well, allow me to explain. PP stands for: Playful and Planning 

You shouldn’t be texting her your life story. Don’t complain how awful your day was. If you’re going to text, either be playful or plan when you’re going to see her again.

SSI stands for: Short, sincere, and impactful (yes, I made this stuff up) 

If you’re going to send a text, make sure it actually has a purpose or the ability to create an impact.

The way a woman knows she is interested or likes you is if she feels something whenever she sees your messages. You should aim to stir up happy emotions within her.

For example, “I want to spend time with you.”

It’s short. It’s direct. It’s sincere (I hope you’re sincere). It’s impactful. (Note: Don’t say this unless you think/know she is slightly interested. Or else, she might react badly.)

Don’t write an essay. The more you write, the lesser the impact. Obviously, I am not saying you shouldn’t get to know her. But you should try to do this in person. If she is very responsive, you can text back and forth as much as you want. But try to keep your messages short.

Do not text things like, “Hey.” “What’s up?” “Hi.” “How are you?”

Those messages are extremely boring and give no value. It will NOT help you progress your relationship or increase your chances so don’t say it.

Anyhow, that’s all for today. I hope these tips can help some of you.

Feel free to share some tips that have worked on you or people you know!

 

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About gchan7127

I just want to share all my knowledge, ideas, and experiences with the world. It makes me happy to know that I can inspire others.
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13 Responses to 3 helpful dating tips for men (and women!)

  1. How about this Potato? Does this meet your SSI criteria?
    “I don’t want to see you”
    I think it is SSI, but not playful and it was definitely planned 😉
    It’s short, sincere and impactful – cause I AM CERTAIN it will cause you strong emotions of laughter =P

  2. kwenzqoatl says:

    If a girl catches my attention its because I noticed something I think is cool/ or interesting about her. Whatever it is I will comment or ask about it. @_@

  3. stenoodie says:

    Lollll!! Guys love being asked for their guidance and like to help out to feel needed. They also like text messages that are to the point.

    • gchan7127 says:

      Yes, I have noticed that!! Guys like to feel like they’re needed. Hehe.

      Thanks for reading, Karen! ❤️ Any tips to share that have worked on you? 😘

      P.S. I will catch up to your blog posts later today! I am 8 days behind!! Ahhh

  4. Guy says:

    Hello Grace,

    Thank you for the amazing post, I took many notes but none of them seem to work :'(…
    *sigh I guess I just have to wait for the right one someday =_=

    • gchan7127 says:

      Hello, guy!

      Thanks for reading and commenting!! It takes time and practice! Not every girl will react the same in every situation. Make sure you actually appear comfortable when approaching the lady! If you feel awkward, she will sense it.

      Good luck! 💪🏻

  5. Dave Dally says:

    Very interesting. Thanks!

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