Hello, my dear readers!
This post is based on my own experiences and is biased. Please understand there isn’t something that will work for every single woman/man. My intention is to help you. These tips are for the initial stage when you’re trying to get her/him interested.
1. Ask for her advice
Oftentimes, guys may notice someone they find attractive but do not know how to approach them without seeming creepy or desperate.
Well, I have the perfect solution for you! Go up to your “target” and ask for her opinion.
Women love to share their thoughts and give advice. Use this to your advantage. For example, you can go up to her and ask, “Hey. I’m debating between this *show her the item* and this *show her the other item*. I would like to get a woman’s opinion. Which would you choose and why?”
Unless you come off as a creep, chances are, she will stop and give you her opinion.
Once you get her talking, it is much easier to carry on the conversation. Notice her body language though. If she looks uncomfortable and wants to leave, don’t push it and just thank her for her time.
(A woman can do this too. It might seem rather bold, but I’m sure most men wouldn’t mind.)
2. Give her your number instead of asking for hers
Whenever a guy asks me, “Can I have your number?” I naturally want to say no. I don’t know why, but maybe I just don’t like giving out my contacts. Or perhaps, I don’t like the word, “Can I?”
However, I’ve noticed that whenever a guy gives me his number and says, “Text me.” I would actually do it!
I am quite sure this has to do with confidence and perhaps the fact that he is allowing me to choose whether or not I would like to stay in contact with him.
In addition, guys, you don’t have anything to lose if she doesn’t text you. If she does text you, great! If she doesn’t, then at least you’ve tried and it’s not like she verbally rejected you.
Whereas, if you ask her for her number, she could say no. Even if she doesn’t say no, she could give you a fake number or ignore you when you do text her.
3. Remember the PP rule and only text her if the message is SSI
Haha, you’re probably confused. What’s PP? What’s SSI? Well, allow me to explain. PP stands for: Playful and Planning
You shouldn’t be texting her your life story. Don’t complain how awful your day was. If you’re going to text, either be playful or plan when you’re going to see her again.
SSI stands for: Short, sincere, and impactful (yes, I made this stuff up)
If you’re going to send a text, make sure it actually has a purpose or the ability to create an impact.
The way a woman knows she is interested or likes you is if she feels something whenever she sees your messages. You should aim to stir up happy emotions within her.
For example, “I want to spend time with you.”
It’s short. It’s direct. It’s sincere (I hope you’re sincere). It’s impactful. (Note: Don’t say this unless you think/know she is slightly interested. Or else, she might react badly.)
Don’t write an essay. The more you write, the lesser the impact. Obviously, I am not saying you shouldn’t get to know her. But you should try to do this in person. If she is very responsive, you can text back and forth as much as you want. But try to keep your messages short.
Do not text things like, “Hey.” “What’s up?” “Hi.” “How are you?”
Those messages are extremely boring and give no value. It will NOT help you progress your relationship or increase your chances so don’t say it.
Anyhow, that’s all for today. I hope these tips can help some of you.
Feel free to share some tips that have worked on you or people you know!