When I first saw this book, I thought to myself, “Wow, the title sucks. And the cover is SOOOOOO ugly. Who designed it?”. Nonetheless, I decided to give it a try. It’s one of the many books my Uncle Aaron had given me. (He probably gave me 40-50 books. I’ll slowly pry through them all….)
Anyhow, this was one of the most comforting books I have ever read. It was very empowering. So don’t judge a book by the title or cover!!
My favourite part of the book was when it talked about the importance of developing a Pain-to-Power vocabulary. Basically, the way you use words has a tremendous impact on the quality of your life. For example:
Pain —————————————-> Power
I can’t I won’t
I should I could
It’s not my fault I’m totally responsible
It’s a problem It’s an opportunity
I’m never satisfied I want to learn and grow
Life’s a struggle Life’s an adventure
I hope I know
If only Next time
What will I do? I know I can handle it
It’s terrible It’s a learning experience
“I can’t” implies you have no control over the situation. Whereas, “I won’t” means you were the one making that choice. We should all aim to use more empowering words rather than destructive words. Mindset is key. Most of the time, the situation is what you make of it. Stop drowning yourself in pain and change the way you think.
I really like this line, “No one is immune to pain, and it shouldn’t be denied when it exists. The key is to know that you can lead a productive and meaningful life no matter what the external circumstances are.” Continue reading “Feel the fear and do it anyway”
This is the first time I am writing a movie review. I never write movie reviews because, quite frankly, it doesn’t matter to me whether you watch the movie or not. If you want to, go ahead. If you don’t want to, that’s completely up to you.
I’m too lazy to write a post to convince someone to watch a movie. Haha.
However, I decided to write about Zootopia because the message is just too powerful and inspirational. I have to share!!
Judy Hopps is the main character of the story and this little bunny has big dreams for herself. Ever since she was a child, she aspired to be a cop.
This week, I would like to talk about success. Please pause and take a moment to think about it. What does success mean to you?
In my opinion, in today’s society, we are too consumed by money. It seems like money is what we use to define someone who is “successful”. The more money you have, the more things you have, the more you are “winning” in life.
While I do believe money is important, I believe the process of attaining the money is important as well. What do I mean by that?
When I was little, I suffered from a lot of social anxiety. I was never diagnosed, but thinking back, I dreaded interacting with people. It was stressful for me. I felt judged and I didn’t want to sound stupid.
Whenever someone approached me, I would freak out on the inside. My heartbeat would increase, and I would have trouble focusing. I was terrified of people.
One of the biggest reasons why I felt this way was because I was unable to communicate in English. English is my second language, and it was extremely difficult for me. I was afraid of mispronouncing words, and I had very limited vocabulary.
Although I went to school briefly in Hong Kong (until I was 7), the English words I had acquired helped very little. I knew the basic “How are you?” “How do you do?” “Fine, thank you.” But that was it. I didn’t know how to carry on an actual conversation.
We all have fears. Fear is that unpleasant emotion we feel when we are afraid of someone or something. It is likely to be something dangerous, painful, or threatening.
Some of the most common fears are: fear of death, fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear of failure, fear of losing loved ones, fear of rejection, fear of heights, and so on.
In my opinion, humans like to be in control of their emotions and destiny. However, fear takes that away from us. When we are fearful of something, we want to avoid it as much as we could because we imagine the worse case scenario. Now, of course, there are things we cannot avoid even if we wish to. Death is an example. Regardless of how much we want to avoid death, we’re all going to die one day. It’s a matter of time.