My experience on Coffee Meets Bagel

To my dear readers,

Long time no blog!! Don’t worry, I haven’t forgotten about you guys. 😛

Today I would like to share my experience on Coffee Meets Bagel. For those who don’t know, CMB is a free online dating app where you can meet other people from your city. I like this app because guys cannot message you unless it is a mutual like (meaning, they “liked” you and you “liked” them back).

In case you’re confused, here’s a picture I found on google:

Coffee meets bagel app

Anyhow, I’m not going to teach you how to use this application. If you are interested, I’m sure there are many tutorials online!

I’ve been using this app for approximately two weeks or so, and here are some things I have noticed:

Guys are tired of trying

I scrolled through some profiles and I could tell that some guys were tired of making so much effort. Under the column for “I appreciate when my date…..”, some wrote, “shows up”, “offers to split the bill.”, “takes initiative.”

At first, I thought it was just one or two bitter guys. But after using the app for two weeks, I realized I come across these types of profiles on a daily basis!!

So it appears that a lot of the guys had terrible experiences and had been stood up by dates in the past.

This is rather unfortunate because after so much disappointment, they don’t even want to try anymore. Continue reading “My experience on Coffee Meets Bagel”

Five types of fans

Five hearts

This post is inspired by all my fans. I’ve learnt a lot from blogging/translating and today I would like to share some of my discoveries and wisdom with you all. 😉

5 types of fans

  1. The silent lurkers

These are the type of fans that never make a single comment, click a single like, or say anything in general. Basically, you don’t even know they exist. They’re just silently supporting you.

  1. The hardcore supporters

These are the type of fans that are extremely passionate about your work. They are relentless, intense, and extremely vocal. They’re the type that will tell everyone about your creation and constantly write encouraging comments to motivate you.

Without hardcore supporters, it is almost impossible for creators to continue.

  1. The generous givers

These are the type of fans that see enough value in your work and are willing to donate or support you on patreon. These fans are extremely rare but are absolutely essential if you want to make a living out of your creation.

Note: Do not underestimate #1 and #2 as they can also be #3.  Continue reading “Five types of fans”

My translation struggles

Struggles

To my dear readers,

At the beginning of July, I found out that all the advertisements on my site had been disabled because of mature content. I was in shock. Because at the time, I hadn’t translated any explicit sexual scenes yet. Everything was still PG13.

Hence, I emailed wordpress asking which part of my blog/translations was inappropriate. I wanted proof. I felt like I was innocent.

Their response was, “If their ‘crawler robots’ think my site is inappropriate, they will naturally ban all my ads.”

I was so upset.

However, I knew after Chapter 50, my novel was going to go down the dirty path, so I created a new site (theeunuch.com) purely for “The Eunuch is Pregnant”.

I thought they would reactivate my ads after this, and they did unblock my site. However, they sent me a response saying, “I cannot promise when, or if, ads will begin displaying again in the future.”

I was so depressed. What made it worse was when I found out my ad revenue amount for the month of June; I had over 115k views and they gave me $0.88.

I felt like I was scammed. And I felt so helpless. Continue reading “My translation struggles”

I’m on a podcast again!

To my dear readers,

I’m on a podcast again!! Last year, I was on Episode 14 of my friends Jack and Gavin’s podcast! This time, I’m back again on Episode 53.

First, we started talking about how sad I was because Jack and Gavin will be leaving to teach abroad in a month or so. Jack will be leaving for Taiwan, while Gavin will be leaving for Japan.

Then, Gavin brought in his topic of “Graduation speech”. This topic was inspired by Jack because he had recently graduated from George Brown College. Gavin asked us if we felt like the graduation speeches were full of shit. For example: Oftentimes, the speaker will tell the graduates that they’re amazing and all of them will be able to achieve greatness. Is it true? Or are they just being overly optimistic? Gavin asked us what we would say if we were to make a graduation speech.

Jack’s topic was about his near-death experience earlier that day. He nearly got into a car accident as a car was running a red light horizontally while he was heading through a green light vertically. According to him, he was probably 2-3cm from getting hit and the guy’s tires were screeching. Jack shared the thoughts that were running through his mind right after the incident. Gavin and I also shared what we would have thought of as well. What do you think would be #1 on your mind if you were about to die?  Continue reading “I’m on a podcast again!”

Being a parent

Crying baby

Disclaimer: I’m not a parent. This post is based on my observations and interactions with my friends who are parents.

In the past few years, many of my friends have gotten married and started families of their own.

I’m extremely happy and proud of them. It is INCREDIBLY hard to be a parent.

On social media, my homepage is always flooded with cute pictures of babies. On Halloween, my friends would dress their babies in super cute costumes (For example: a sushi! Oh my goodness, I want to eat that sushi! *drools* Spicy salmon is my favourite!)

Anyhow, the point is, online, I only see the cute and happy side of being a parent.

However, when I actually hang out with my friends and their kids, I see the difficult side that social media doesn’t display.

A few weeks ago, I saw some of my friends for the first time in months. I spent the whole day with them and I got to experience what being a parent actually meant.  Continue reading “Being a parent”

Asking the right questions

To my dear readers,

If you can’t tell by now, the translator of “The Eunuch is Pregnant” is from theeunuch dot com. All the other sites have stolen my translations. Since they keep stealing my stuff, they might as well steal my blog posts too. I started off as a blogger anyway. Here’s a post I wrote a year ago. (Btw, I linked a video too, I wonder if the aggregators will upload that too?)

I am featured in a podcast with some of my friends from Faulty Logix! In the episode, I shared about why I started blogging, some of my most popular posts, some personal stories (including receiving an inappropriate pic once!) The guys and I also had a discussion about whether guys and girls can be purely friends. Feel free to listen! If you like what you hear, don’t forget to subscribe and follow them!

 

ask-the-right-questions

On another note, I want to tell you guys how to get close to someone. The key, is to ask the right questions. Oftentimes, the questions we ask or get asked are too surface level. Ex. “Hey, what’s new?” “How’s work?” These type of questions will usually only give you short and simple responses.

In order to really get to know someone, you have to dig deeper. Here are some deeper questions you could ask:

1. Who is your hero? What qualities make them your choice?
2. If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would buy? Why?
3. What values are important to you?
4. What scares you? 
5. What makes you feel alive? 

These questions will definitely give you a much better idea of what the person is like because answering these questions require a lot more thought. The person actually has to think and be a bit vulnerable. Continue reading “Asking the right questions”