Tag: inspirational

Taking Responsibility

Responsible

This is a topic that has been on my mind for quite some time. In life, we have a tendency to blame others for our problems or failures. When something doesn’t go the way we want it to, it’s usually, “Oh, it’s because of ________.” Or it’s because ________ happened”.

Most of us rarely admit, “It’s our fault.”

That is because, we don’t like thinking it’s our fault.

We blame everyone but ourselves. 

For example, if you had a bad professor and you did poorly in the class, you might say, “It’s because of the prof! He/she can’t teach! It’s so unfair. He/she is totally biased.” And so on.

However, stop for a minute and ask yourself.

What did you do? 

Did you attend every class?

If you did, were you paying attention?

Did you procrastinate on your assignment?

There are many factors that could affect your grade. Yes, perhaps the professor was bad, but you were the one who made the choice to attend class or not; to pay attention or not; to procrastinate or not.

You are responsible for your own actions. 

Remember, bad things happen to everyone, but you do not have to react a certain way.

If you blame everyone else for your problems, you are literally saying you have no control over your life. Don’t allow others to dictate your life. Be the driver of your emotions.

In addition, if people can sense how you will react, they can easily choose to manipulate you. Think about it. Those who are successful are not easily fazed.

Accountable

P.S. I have another award nomination post that I will be posting this coming week! (Basically, I have to answer some questions about myself, haha) So if you want to find out more about me, stay tuned! I was nominated 2 weeks ago but I had to complete the quote challenge first.

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Your eyes show the strength of your soul

The Little Prince

The Little Prince

Many of you may have heard of the book called, “My Little Prince”. It is a well known classic although most of us may not have read it. I’ve had a copy since I was a child, but I never got passed Chapter One because I was young and foolish back then. Recently though, thanks to Ramexabella, I decided to give the book another try.

Now I can say it’s my favourite fictional book.

This is a very bold statement considering how much I used to read.

It is so good that I am inspired to write about it. I want everyone else to read it.

What makes it so special?

There is so much depth and meaning. The words stay with me even after the book is closed. It’s about life, childhood, and mankind.

I don’t want to tell you what the story is about, but I want to share some of the lessons from the book.

Back in the little Prince’s planet, there were invisible seeds. Some were good, and some were bad. At first, everything looks alright. The baobabs (bad seeds) resemble the rosebushes (good seeds). Therefore, one must check regularly to see what is growing. As soon as a baobab can be recognized, it must be torn out. If you intervene too late, you will never get rid of it. Its roots will spread all over the planet and your planet can explode.

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This may seem ridiculous, but it’s a matter of discipline. “Before they grow to such a size, baobabs start out by being small.”

The way I interpret this is that the baobab represents our negative thoughts. We’re constantly surrounded by negativity. We are not aware of the impact it can have on us if we allow it to grow. If we leave it, it can be indestructible.

Personally, I know some people who cannot see the good in anything. They are so negative that all they feel is hate, anger, and sadness. They have allowed their baobabs to multiply and it has consumed their world.

Lesson: It is important that we reflect on our actions and thoughts on a regular basis. If there is an issue that bothers or saddens you, deal with it immediately! Don’t wait.

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10 Facts About Me

One lovely blog award

Once again, Shannon has nominated me for an award! This time, it is the “One Lovely Blog Award”! Honestly, I think Shannon just wants me to get more exposure. She is so sweet. I love how the blogging community is so giving and caring. We don’t personally know each other, but we wish the best to all our fellow bloggers.

The Rules

  • You must thank the person who nominated you and include a link to their blog.
  • You must list the rules and display the award.
  • You must add 7 facts about yourself.
  • You must nominate 15 other bloggers and comment on one of their posts to let them know they have been nominated.

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A society with messed up values

Values

A couple weeks ago, I had a very interesting conversation with a friend. I was telling him that I don’t have facebook on my phone because the app is too heavy (takes up too much space) and my phone cannot handle it. Surprisingly, he told me his phone cannot handle whatsapp!

Clearly, we should get new phones.

But we are both reluctant. We both shared our reasons.

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Social Anxiety

Sharks

When I was little, I suffered from a lot of social anxiety. I was never diagnosed, but thinking back, I dreaded interacting with people. It was stressful for me. I felt judged and I didn’t want to sound stupid.

Whenever someone approached me, I would freak out on the inside. My heartbeat would increase, and I would have trouble focusing. I was terrified of people.

One of the biggest reasons why I felt this way was because I was unable to communicate in English. English is my second language, and it was extremely difficult for me. I was afraid of mispronouncing words, and I had very limited vocabulary.

Although I went to school briefly in Hong Kong (until I was 7), the English words I had acquired helped very little. I knew the basic “How are you?” “How do you do?” “Fine, thank you.” But that was it. I didn’t know how to carry on an actual conversation.

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Friendship

Friendship

When we were little, a friend could simply be someone who played with us. Perhaps it was someone who liked what we liked. There weren’t really any requirements.

But as we get older, our definition of a friend starts changing. People who we hang out with are not necessarily our friends anymore. Our standards become higher and people have to start earning our friendships.

Everyone’s idea of a friend could vary. However, I believe that the qualities of a true friend is pretty much standard for all of us.

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Fear

Fear
Fear can stop us from achieving a lot.

We all have fears. Fear is that unpleasant emotion we feel when we are afraid of someone or something. It is likely to be something dangerous, painful, or threatening.

Some of the most common fears are: fear of death, fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear of failure, fear of losing loved ones, fear of rejection, fear of heights, and so on.

In my opinion, humans like to be in control of their emotions and destiny. However, fear takes that away from us. When we are fearful of something, we want to avoid it as much as we could because we imagine the worse case scenario. Now, of course, there are things we cannot avoid even if we wish to. Death is an example. Regardless of how much we want to avoid death, we’re all going to die one day. It’s a matter of time.

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Attention

Attention

Attention can make us feel acknowledged, appreciated, and valued. As a result, a lot of people seek attention.

In general, if one wants attention, he/she will do something to try to get others to notice them. This can include: posting a lot of pictures, messaging a lot, doing something out of the ordinary, being very loud, making controversial statements, and so on.

Some try extremely hard to get the attention of others. This may be because they feel that it validates their existence. For example, for devoted fans, it means the world to them if their celebrity crushes notice them. Thus, it is very common for extreme fans to continuously bombard their celebrities with tweets and comments. To them, if the celebrity ever responds or retweets to even one message, they feel like it’s all worth it.

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Building Confidence

Confidence

Confidence is an amazing feeling. It makes you feel like you can do anything.

It is power.

It is belief.

It is also posture and energy.

When someone is confident, you can sense it right away. It’s as if there is an invisible shield surrounding him/her. Confident people are usually very good presenters and quite popular. No wonder then, most people want to be confident. But the question is, how?

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Perspective

Perspective

Two different men grew up in broken families. They were both molested at a young age and suffered from bullying and poverty. One man became very successful and became a millionaire when he was older. But instead of spending lavishly on himself, he donated most of his money to help others in need. People all over the world asked him, “Sir, could you tell us your secret to success? How did you become the way you are?”

The successful man replied, “With a past like my own, what else could I have done?”

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