My attention span and Pokémon Go

I haven’t written a personal post in a very long time. But I haven’t forgotten you guys. I just don’t want to write for the sake of writing.

These days, I feel like I have the attention span of a potato. When I was young (before I had the internet), I would breeze through a book in one sitting. 300 pages? No big deal.

Nowadays, reading 50 pages is a struggle. I’m constantly tempted to do something else.

Haha, honestly, I blame the internet and my lack of self control. With so many social media applications nowadays, my generation is constantly checking up on what others are doing or posting something to show others what they are doing.

Deep down, I know the smart thing is to focus on my personal growth rather than see which pokemons my friends have caught. But I guess I enjoy being amused and not using my brain (I know, I sound terrible).
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Wedding

I have been neglecting my personal blog posts so badly lately… I’m so sorry to my old readers. (I have some readers who only read my personal posts, no translations). If you have been following me since 2014, you will have noticed that I have gone through many phases..

I used to write about a certain topic (Ex. Social Anxiety, Communication, Attention, etc). I would also share random stories once in awhile (Ex. The Glass, The Tiny Frog, etc).

Then, I wrote a bunch of posts on motivation.

Eventually, I moved onto posting some of my personal views on topics such as the Education System, Gay Marriage, and etc.

After that, there were two months where I consistently wrote a bunch of relationship posts (Those were very popular but generated a lot of controversy from my friends and readers).

Now, my posts are more like diary entries.

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Last week, my friend Angela got married! Angela and I have known each other since our Undergraduate years. It’s crazy how time flies.

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It was a lovely wedding. I love western venues. Personally, I find them much more organized and enjoyable. Although I’m Chinese, I dislike Chinese weddings very much because they never start on time. In fact, the invitation may say 6 or 6:30, but they usually don’t start until after 8 or 8:30.

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Hm… thoughts?

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This is my profile pic on discord. Haha.
Last Monday, I didn’t write my normal Monday post. I felt bad and I wanted to write, but I didn’t feel like venting or sharing some of my personal issues.

However, I don’t want to skip my post again, so I’m going to share a bit.

If you have read my last original post My Adventures on Discord , you would know that I have found a very fun and interactive online community.

Due to my illness, I am often at home. Therefore, nowadays, I usually go on discord daily.

I really enjoy karaoke-ing and chatting with different translators and editors from all over the world. Sometimes, on voice chat, people would play guitar or piano, and a bunch of us would mute ourselves and listen. It’s like attending a concert, except you can only listen.

A few days ago, Options was playing the piano. Deceptioning made a comment.

Deceptioning: Your girlfriend will be a lucky woman (due to the fast fingers? Haha)

A bunch of people: Options is a girl!

Deceptioning: Oh…lucky guy then?

Options: Well, I do have my options (get it? Her name is Options, so she has her options! AHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAHA *insert the laughing crying face emoticon*)

*By the way, this was through text and we didn’t actually hear Option speak, so most of us had no idea she was a female.

But on a serious note, discord also made me learn a few things about myself and people.

If someone really wants to talk to you, he/she will make the effort to talk to you even if there are so many barriers (ex. they’re busy, different time zones, different work schedules, etc).

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My Adventures on Discord

A couple weeks ago, I wrote on Reddit asking for novel suggestions. I was forced to stop translating Zui Wu Dao because the author had stop writing in the middle of the story. Hence, I was looking for something new to translate.

Originally, I started translating because I wanted to lure readers into my blog so they would read my personal posts. However, that didn’t go as well as I thought it would. The majority of my readers come purely for the translations. That’s it. The moment they get what they want, they leave.

As for my friends, they are not interested in my translations at all. They only want to read my personal posts.

Nonetheless, I still do both because it’s personal development and I am a very expressive person.

So on Reddit, an user told me to message a person called Amery Edge. Apparently, he does teasers on his site and he could give me some suggestions.

I decided to email him (at the time, I didn’t know it was a guy) to see what suggestions he would give me.

Amery was very helpful and specific in his email. He suggested “Your Highness, I know my wrongs” but I was quite reluctant at first because the story seemed really ridiculous and silly. (I mean, c’mon, the title is a turn off LOL) jk

I wanted a novel that would generate more views and donations. However, I didn’t want to be a total snob so I decided to at least read the first few chapters he had already translated.

I was instantly hooked. IT IS SO FREAKING GOOD.  Continue reading “My Adventures on Discord”

Some of my favourite posts

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I’ve decided to create a post where you can read some of my favourite posts without having to scroll around my blog. Some of these posts are quite old (from 2 years ago). However, I still wanted to share. Hope you enjoy!

A 3 part series
Time and Financial Freedom (part 1)
The Secret (part 2)
The Three Ways (part 3)

Stories
The story of two families
The Tiny Frog
The Glass
The World In Green

Self improvement 
Building Confidence
Questionnaire for yourself
Social Anxiety
Communication
Fear
From the bottom to the top

Quote challenge
Quote Challenge 1/3
Quote Challenge 2/3
Quote Challenge 3/3

Society 
Reality vs the Internet
Attention
Appearance
A society with messed up values
Why I hate the Education System

Based on books
Wise Words
The Little Prince
Born To Win
Think and Grow Rich
The Virtual World

Learning
Things to consider when investing
How to read Chinese
Conversation Tips

Good deeds
Helping the Homeless: Happy Feet

An act of kindness

Asian
How most Asian parents think
Shaming

Relationships
Relationship Goals
Can Men and Women be purely friends?
Should guys pay for the first date?
Should you be allowed to hang out alone with the opposite sex if you’re in a relationship?
The Perfect Man
How to escape the Friendzone

From a different angle
Just a reminder
Perspective
Don’t judge a person by the cover
What is Success?

I just really like this movie
Zootopia

There are too many posts and I didn’t include them all. If you want to read more, please visit: liveandlearn88.com . Thanks, everyone! ❤

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5 signs you’re in a toxic relationship

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This week’s relationship topic is brought to you by my Moo Moo! You can visit her blog here.

5 signs you’re in a toxic relationship

1. You are always experiencing negative emotions. Ex. You feel like you’re never good enough. Or perhaps, he/she doesn’t care about you or your feelings, constantly comparing you with other people, disrespecting you, etc.

2. You are constantly giving, and not receiving anything back. A healthy relationship requires both parties to put in effort, thought and time. If only one of you is doing all the work, then you need to seriously have a talk about it.

3. He/she tries to control you (who you see, who you talk to, your choices, your money, and etc). Obviously in a relationship, compromises are needed. However, if you need his/her permission to do things, then that’s not right.

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Should guys pay for the first date?

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This is another topic that will probably spark a lot of debate. I’ve asked some of my friends before and here are some of their opinions:

What the guys say

“No. It’s unfair. Women want to be treated equally. So why do I have to pay for the date? We can split 50/50. It’s unfair how we men are expected to always pay.”

“Yes, because if I don’t…I won’t get a second date. Game over yo.”

“No. I would never pay for the first couple of dates. That’s spoiling her. What if she expects me to always pay? I have to see if I want to invest in her first. Maybe after a couple of dates, I might consider.”

“I kinda expect to pay, but I would be happy if she offers to split.” Continue reading “Should guys pay for the first date?”

Your addictions are toxic

Addiction

This is a topic I have been meaning to write about since last year, but I kept putting it off.

Addiction is something we are all aware of. It’s when you’re constantly ingesting a substance or engaging in an activity that you find pleasurable. For example: drug, alcohol, gambling, shopping, gaming, and etc.

While the substance or activity itself may bring us pleasure, it is very harmful to us in the long run.

Why?

1. You lose self control. You’re no longer able to “live” without it because you’re constantly thinking or craving for it.

2. Time and money is scarce. We only have 24 hours a day. If you spend 5+ (or however long you spend) hours feeding your addiction, you will have less time to do other things, or take care of other responsibilities.

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Don’t judge a person by the cover

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For this Monday, I would like to share a true story with all of you. This post is about a boy whom I used to tutor. I will call him “Richard” to keep him anonymous.

Richard is a family friend and I’ve known him all my life. I am nine years older than him, and I am also friends with his older brother. Due to our big gap in age, I have actually seen him crawl around his house in diapers.

When he was around 8, I started tutoring him because his mother had asked. Although he was only in Grade 3, Richard was already struggling a lot in school. He was diagnosed with a learning disorder as well as ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). He couldn’t sit still nor pay attention in class.

It was very, very, VERY difficult to tutor Richard. We would literally read a paragraph together and I would ask him, “Okay, what is this paragraph about?”

He would reply, “I don’t know. I don’t remember.”

I was so frustrated, “HELLO!!? We just read it like less than a minute ago! How can you forget everything so fast?” Continue reading “Don’t judge a person by the cover”

How to escape the Friendzone

Friendzone

NOTE: I am the translator of “The Eunuch is Pregnant”. My translations have been stolen by at least 20+ sites. The reason why you’re seeing this right now is because I’m letting the bots steal my blog posts since they keep stealing my content. I figured I might as well promote something that may help you guys rather than posting the google translations of the chapter. Please read from my original site. It is theeunuch dot com. You can use novelupdates dot com to keep track of your novels and it will link you to the actual translation sites.

Disclaimer: This is based on my experience and my opinions. It may or may not work for you. However, my intention is to help you. Normally, I would not share something like this…(I’m serious)

1. Don’t be a friend

If you are looking for more than friendship, don’t act like a friend. If you’re going to act like a good friend, don’t be surprised if the girl sees you as only a friend.

Based on my experience, Caucasian guys tend to have way more confidence than Asian guys. They tend to make their intentions obvious from the start; making it difficult for women to friendzone them.

For example: “I find you attractive, and I would like to take you out on a date.”
“When I first saw you, I already knew. You’re the one I want.”

What does this mean?

#1. He cannot be friendzoned because he was never a friend to begin with.
#2. He does not intend to be a friend, so he cannot be friendzoned.

You see?? Some guys think if they start off as friends, maybe eventually the girl will realize how great/nice/awesome/amazing he is, and date him later on.

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