How to tell if a shy girl likes you

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Okay, this post is a somewhat continuation of my post from last week (The texting game). Honestly, there are only two things you really need to do in order to figure out whether a shy girl likes you or not.

1. Pay attention to the amount of effort she is putting in

This might sound like common sense, but hear me out.

Shy girls do not tend to be very direct. They’re most likely never going to tell you they like you or flirt (either they don’t know how or they prefer not to). Therefore, some people might be wondering, “Does she like me? Or does she only want to be my friend?”

Here are some things that could potentially mean she likes you:

-She goes out of her way to message you when it is not necessary.
-She is open to hanging out with you one on one.
-She tries to carry on the conversation.
-She makes an effort to look nice when she is meeting up with you.
-She likes to joke around with you.

However, even if the girl does all of the above, it doesn’t mean she likes you for sure. To find out, you need to do #2. Continue reading “How to tell if a shy girl likes you”

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The texting game

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In today’s world, technology has really changed how relationships work. People no longer have to make direct phone calls or go to the person’s house in order to make plans. Nowadays, the majority of the people text.

Therefore, if you suck at texting, you’re in trouble.

I’m going to share a real story with you guys. It was a conversation between me and my friend. She had recently downloaded a lot of dating apps and was trying them out. She matched with a few guys and immediately messaged them.

Me: You messaged him? You should probably have waited for him to initiate a conversation!

Friend: Why? If we matched, what’s the point if we don’t talk to each other?

Me: True…but it’s already so easy for the guys. They can swipe hundreds of people in a matter of minutes. Plus, it only takes a few seconds to start a conversation. If he doesn’t even need to start a conversation, he might not value you. What did you say?

Friend: I said, “Hi, Joseph.”

Me: SO FORMAL!?!?! Omg, if you’re going to say something. You should make a comment about his profile or picture or something. Or tell a joke. It would be more interesting!?!

Friend: Why do I have to purposely change myself?

Me: Okay okay. Do whatever you want. I just don’t want you to get hurt. Most of the time, people might be playing the texting game.

Friend: What’s the texting game? Why do we have to play games? I just want to get straight to the point. Don’t waste my time.  Continue reading “The texting game”

Unveil: A voice messaging dating app

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To celebrate breaking 500000 views on my blog, I decided to try something new. I downloaded my first ever dating app!! I found out about this app through Lisa. It is called Unveil and I think the concept is very interesting.

Basically, everyone’s pictures start off as blurry. The only way you can see what the person looks like is if you send voice messages back and forth. The more you talk, the more gets unveil.

The reason why I like this is because:

  1. It is less shallow. You are not messaging a person based on what they look like (since you can’t see what they look like). Instead, you are messaging them based on their content from their voice intro.
  2. Voices convey a lot more emotions compared to text. It feels much more personal.

Anyways, this is how you start.

  1. You download the app.
  2. You add your name and your birthday (only your age will show) and your gender.
  3. You state your gender preference.
  4. You record a voice intro.
  5. You can browse and listen to others’ intros. If you swipe, you go to the next person. If you want to respond to a person, you just click the microphone at the corner. The maximum length is 2 minutes.

My voice intro was actually very shitty but it was actually what I was thinking; hence I didn’t change it. This is what I said, “Hi, my name is Grace and I like inspirational things….and singing. *awkward 2 secs pause* What about you? *another awkward pause* I wanted to try this out because it seems like a very cool concept… and…we’ll see. *pause for one more sec*. That’s it.” [end]

I thought about changing it and making it sound more attractive. Or perhaps singing to “trap” some guys. But ultimately, I decided to leave it because I’d rather the person like me for my less-perfect version. I want to be real and not edit my thoughts.

Anyhow, one person did message me. We’ll call him S for stranger. The first message S sent me was, “Hey Grace. You said you like inspirational things. What’s your biggest inspiration and why?” Continue reading “Unveil: A voice messaging dating app”

Dating: Young vs Old.

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When you’re young, dating is very simple and innocent. Usually, you want to be with the person simply because you like him/her. It’s typically more fairy-tale like.

However, when you’re older, attraction is not enough (if you’re looking for something serious). There are way more things that play a factor in whether you would want to be with a person for the long term.

For instance:

Would you want the person to be the mother/father of your child?

Is he/she financially stable?

Does he/she want kids?

Could you stand living with him/her?

Is he/she supportive of your goals and dreams?

And so on.

You might say, “Well, that’s not true. I don’t think about that stuff when I’m dating.” Haha. I think this highly depends on your age and how serious you are. If you’re just looking for fun and something short term, it definitely wouldn’t matter. However, if you’re at an age where you feel pressured or you want to settle down, then the answers to these questions are actually very important.  Continue reading “Dating: Young vs Old.”

Heartache

I’ve neglected my personal posts for over a month now. I’m so sorry… I know, I’m always apologizing. However, I honestly don’t have motivation to post. I have thoughts but I don’t want to share them.

Today, though, I want to share a song that has moved my heart. I have translated some of the lyrics. It’s not exactly 100%, but it’s close enough. Please listen to the song as you read it. The song starts around 0:22

By the way, the thoughts were inspired by the song. This post is not a depressing call for help or anything. lol

At night, is there someone to help you light a lamp?
When you’re dreaming, is there someone to help you unfold your hands?
When you’re upset, is there someone to help you wipe away the tears?
When you’re down, is there someone to wrap you in an embrace? 

Could it be
You truly don’t know
How much you mean to me?

Could it be
You honestly don’t feel it? 

There’s nothing more my love needs to say
Until the end of time


Honestly, this is one of the most touching performances I have ever seen/heard. From his voice, I could hear heartache, sadness, vulnerability, and defeat. It makes me want to tear up.

I think in general, we all want to find a partner who will be there for us in times of need. Knowing you are loved is comforting. Seldom would we choose a path of loneliness.  Continue reading “Heartache”

Guess who is featured in an interesting podcast!? (me)

To my dear readers,

Last week, my ex neighbour Jack picked me up and we recorded an interesting podcast with his friend and co-host Gavin in his “studio” (his room). Haha.

I haven’t seen Jack since 2002. He was 9 at the time.

It’s crazy how time flew by and we recently reconnected through facebook because he was trying to promote his podcast. Ahahahahaha.

Anyhow, the podcast is super interesting so you should listen.

Here’s briefly what we talked about: Continue reading “Guess who is featured in an interesting podcast!? (me)”

Wedding

I have been neglecting my personal blog posts so badly lately… I’m so sorry to my old readers. (I have some readers who only read my personal posts, no translations). If you have been following me since 2014, you will have noticed that I have gone through many phases..

I used to write about a certain topic (Ex. Social Anxiety, Communication, Attention, etc). I would also share random stories once in awhile (Ex. The Glass, The Tiny Frog, etc).

Then, I wrote a bunch of posts on motivation.

Eventually, I moved onto posting some of my personal views on topics such as the Education System, Gay Marriage, and etc.

After that, there were two months where I consistently wrote a bunch of relationship posts (Those were very popular but generated a lot of controversy from my friends and readers).

Now, my posts are more like diary entries.

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Last week, my friend Angela got married! Angela and I have known each other since our Undergraduate years. It’s crazy how time flies.

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It was a lovely wedding. I love western venues. Personally, I find them much more organized and enjoyable. Although I’m Chinese, I dislike Chinese weddings very much because they never start on time. In fact, the invitation may say 6 or 6:30, but they usually don’t start until after 8 or 8:30.

Continue reading “Wedding”